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Hey Subscriber First Name As you read this, I want to start by saying thank you. You’ve chosen to give me a few minutes of your time each week and that exchange matters. Time and attention are the most precious currencies we have. They’re the energy that underpins everything - our work, our relationships and our growth. So if you can’t tell already, the theme for this week is time. It’s been on my mind. Maybe it’s the clocks changing, maybe it’s a reflective anniversary or maybe it’s that I’m finally discovering the power of slowing down. I’m writing this on 27th October, 26 years to the day since my mum passed away suddenly when I was 17. For most of my adult life, I didn’t stop to face it. I learned to fill the silence with movement, chasing job titles, deadlines and distractions (anything to avoid the stillness where pain might surface). But when the music stops, we have a choice: keep running or turn and face what’s been waiting for us. Eventually, I stopped and began to re-parent that scared 17-year-old boy who thought that if he kept moving, he’d stay safe. Looking back brought sadness and looking forward brought anxiety. I rarely stayed in the present, which is the only place where life actually happens. When my mum died at 49, I didn’t realise just how young she was. When you’re 17, it feels a long way to 49. Now I’m 43, it feels very different. Time changes everything, especially perspective. Mum ran out of time, but she planted enough seeds for me to grow strong roots. She was a feminist hippy who followed her heart. It led to some decisions that will never make sense to me but that’s ok. She was trying her best and she radiated love. It’s an energy that I honour and one I had forgotten about for a while. In my corporate years, we wore busyness as a badge of honour. Back-to-back meetings, no time to think or even go to the toilet. But the truth was, we often achieved nothing of real substance. I burned out when I realised that no matter how hard I tried, it wouldn’t work if I was in the wrong soil. These days, I measure time differently. I learn new things every day and I have profound experiences through my work. I earn less but I live more. Something that struck me this week was the clocks changing. It feels strange that we all collectively agree to change the time. In reality, we’re not changing time, we’re just agreeing to change a clock. Nature hasn’t changed, nature doesn’t follow time. Nature follows something deeper. Nature follows rhythms and cycles. Yet we impose deadlines, squeeze more from our days and tell ourselves we’re failing if we don’t keep up.
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