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We’ve reached edition 10 and I’ve loved getting here with you!

Hitting this milestone has nudged me into a decision to commit to sending these newsletters weekly, landing in your inbox every Tuesday morning.

So, let’s begin where we left off:
“What would change if I truly believed I was already enough?”

What we believe shapes what we see, how we behave and ultimately, how we live. I often explore belief systems in my work with individuals, businesses and through my talks and events.

When our beliefs are aligned and nourishing, they offer structure, clarity and possibility. But sometimes, they turn ‘maladaptive’ and become unhelpful patterns that fuel procrastination, amplify our inner critic and crank up our people-pleasing.

Self-compassion is essential in building a life we don’t just tolerate, but love. A key part of that is noticing how we speak to ourselves and whether we’d use that same tone with someone we care about. Another is surrounding ourselves with people who reflect back our value, even when we can’t see it ourselves.

One of those people, for me, was my grandmother Mary who passed away last week at the age of 104.

I wanted to share her passing with you, because she helped shape so much of who I am and her legacy feels deeply connected to the themes we explore here - inner wisdom, letting go, resilience and living from love rather than fear.

Mary believed in choosing your own path. She gave me steady, unconditional support especially after my mum died in 1999. For years, she was always more proud of me than I was for myself. And now, I’m trying to internalise that, to meet myself with the same kindness she offered me.

Caring for Mary and my grandfather Doug for more than a decade has shaped the way I show up in the world. Looking back, I see more clearly how much I’ve held and how much I’ve still managed to grow. It’s helping me soften the perfectionism, the urgency and embrace the idea that I’ve always been enough, I just needed to slow down long enough to see it.

I hope this doesn’t feel too self-indulgent, but rather a reflection you might recognise something of yourself in.

So here’s a photo of me with Mary and if you scroll down, we’ll explore how to Design a life shaped by ‘enough’…

So much of what we’ve been taught to strive for is rooted in scarcity and in the belief that we are not yet enough, haven’t done enough or don’t have enough. But when we challenge these beliefs, our goals shift and we create with curiosity and connection.

I have a large tool kit of useful resources to help my clients achieve more with less and balance the pressures of modern life with the inner wisdom of thinking for ourselves.

We can sometimes become stuck in our thoughts so we need to build momentum and balance the things we must get done with the things we would like to do with our time.

So this leads us to the Momentum Map which you can see below and if you’d like a hi-res PDF, please reply to this email and I’ll send it straight to you.

And here are the instructions:

Use the four boxes (Must, Should, Could, Want) to gently sort your thoughts, tasks, and goals. This tool is here to help you listen to yourself, not just your calendar.

• Must: These have to be achieved

• Should: Obligations, expectations (yours or others’)

• Could: Possibilities, not urgent or essential

• Want: What your heart is pulling you toward

Once everything’s down, scan each box and ask:

• What’s really mine to carry today?

• What can wait, be shared, or be let go of?

• What will help me move with intention?

• How do I contract with myself to achieve balance?

I’m putting a spotlight this week on an exciting event that I’m involved with on the Isle of Wight.

Come and join us eat garlic and learn about the amazing rewilding projects happening on the island!

• 12th June - ‘B Curious’ trip to the Isle of Wight

  Open to all! In my role as Co-Chair, I’m supporting our B Local trip cross the Solent and we’d love you to join us. Set in the stunning re-wilding landscape of Little Duxmore, our next ‘Wild Companions’ collaboration with the Hampshire & Isle of Wight Wildlife Trust is a one-of-a-kind afternoon exploring how business can be a force for good, especially for nature. Book your tickets here

This week, we explored how the stories we carry about ‘enough’ shape the way we live and lead. Shifting those stories takes time and a generous dose of self-compassion.

So here’s something to carry with you in the days ahead:
“What if your worth wasn’t something to earn, but something to remember?”

Next time, we’ll gently explore what holds us back from starting and what might be waiting for us on the other side.

With warmth and care,

Nick