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This week’s theme is procrastination, so it feels fitting to acknowledge that I’m sending this email a little later than usual. More on that in a moment.

But first, let’s return to last week’s question:

“What are you putting off and what might that resistance be trying to protect you from?”

This one landed deeply for me. I’ve spent many years unpicking my inner landscape, getting to know my belief systems, behaviours and coping strategies.

And if I’m honest, this past week has been a busy one. The emotional, physical and philosophical weight many of us are carrying right now feels bigger than I’d realised.

The difference is, I now recognise the signs when my system needs to slow down. So I listened.

I used one of my favourite tools (that I’ve previously shared with you), the Motivation Map to spot where things had drifted off course. I’d overestimated what I could hold and I knew I needed to make space if I wanted to access the wiser part of my mind. So I said no to a few things. And while it was absolutely the right call, the perfectionist and people-pleaser in me weren’t thrilled.

For a while I procrastinated, not because I didn’t care but because two belief systems were in conflict. And this newsletter is a prime example.

I could have powered through to meet an arbitrary deadline, or I could slow down, regulate and speak from a more grounded place.

Earlier versions of me would have stayed up half the night, wondering why I couldn’t be better organised. But this newsletter is meant to be regenerative. A reflection of the work I do and the life I’m building.

So I chose presence over perfection. I hope you don’t mind receiving it a few hours later today.

And as a reward for your patience, I’ve created an offer just for my newsletter subscribers which you can read more about below.

But before we get to that, George Carlin is here to remind us about the power of creating the space to ask ‘why’ or why not’? There will always be things to keep us busy and away from asking the deeper questions (work can be very good at keeping us disconnected from what really matters).

If this week’s theme resonated (especially the part about conflicting inner beliefs or pressure to get things ‘right’) I want to share a tool that’s helped me and many of my clients reconnect with clarity and compassion.

Rooted in Transactional Analysis the Drivers Discovery tool, explores five unconscious ‘drivers’ that often run the show: things like “Be Perfect”, “Please Others”, or “Try Hard”.

These drivers are often formed in childhood and can quietly shape how we show up especially in moments of stress, overload or indecision.

For me, uncovering my drivers was like being handed a compassionate map back to myself. It helped explain why I sometimes freeze or procrastinate, even when I care deeply. And more importantly, it gave me language to meet those parts of myself with understanding, not shame.

I usually only offer this process within longer coaching work, but I’m opening up a few one-off sessions for my newsletter community. It includes:

• The Drivers Questionnaire

• A 45-minute 1:1 coaching session to explore your patterns

• A personalised summary report for reflection

£99 for newsletter readers (this will rise to £150 when I offer it more widely). Limited to 10 spaces initially.

If you’re feeling the pull please reply to this email.

Think of this tool as a reset. It’s a chance to understand your internal system and gently rewire some of the strategies that may have once protected you but are no longer serving you.

It’s nearly People Planet Pastry time so don’t forget to get your tickets if you’re free to join us for a delicious morning of cake and conversation.

And we’re honouring the summer solstice with a celebration on Friday with my friends at Four Acre Farm:

• People Planet Pastry event at Patch on Thursday 26th June. Tickets here

• Summer Solstice celebrations at the wonderful Four Acre Farm on the 27th June. Details here

• ACTionism film screening with my friends at Velo Domestique in Southbourne. Provisional date is Thursday 10th July at 7pm. Tickets will be confirmed and booking link will be shared soon.

And finally, here’s a photo from this weekend’s Solstice campout, a joyful blend of bikes, community and celebrating the turning of the seasons.

This week, I slowed down and listened to reconnect with a quieter clarity.

My delay making decisions wasn’t coming from laziness or something to be shamed. My mind was doing what it could to nutraulise the threat it felt from my nervous system.

There’s more for us to unpack next week. But for now, here’s a question to sit with:

“Where in your life are you saying yes when your body is saying no?”

Thank you for being here. For reading, reflecting and choosing to do this work alongside me. I appreciate it and it matters.

With compassion and curiosity,

Nick